My Husband is Not The Enemy

After a rather tense “counseling session“ of working cows, with my hubby, I recognized that I had two choices. I could respond to him as he’s the enemy, by being angry with him; I could be filled with desire for revenge… “If you’re going to make me feel bad about this, then I’ll make you feel bad about something”; Or I could just let it go. But even after a week’s “space“, “letting it go” is still hard for me to say out loud, let alone actually do.

I could pray for him but I know the prayer would go something like this. “Dear God, Odin was really having a hard time today. Please help him to have more patience in the future.“ Although that’s not a horrible prayer, it doesn’t really address my heart and my role in the situation. I could recognize that the thoughts of revenge, anger, and feeling that I have the “right“ to feel hurt was really Satan utilizing a weakness in my own heart to begin to create a wedge between God, my husband and I.

You see, Satan would like nothing more than to tear down something that God had put together.

1 Peter 5:8 says, “Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.” Satan would love to at least convince us that we’re miserable within the marriage that God brought together! Satan is the father of lies! John 8:44 says, “...He (Satan) was a murderer from the beginning, and does not stand in the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies.”I know for a fact that anything my husband says or does is not with the intention to hurt me, discredit me, frustrate me, or anything negative for that matter.

I know my husband is human.

Yes! He does have control over his actions. God does not hold me accountable for Odin’s actions, but God is holding me accountable for my own thoughts, feelings, and actions. A group of rural sisters and I are studying through Priscilla Shirer‘s book “Fervent, A Woman’s Battle Plan for Serious, Specific, and Strategic Prayer” right now. In that book one of the things Priscilla says is that people of faith either give Satan too much credit or they go to the complete opposite direction and don’t give him enough credit. For myself, I think I come down on either end, in different scenarios. I know that in many situations when things get tough I don’t even consider the role that Satan may be playing. Frankly, it’s a bit uncomfortable, to think about, but it’s true.

Satan knows our weaknesses and works to make us believe that our weaknesses define us! It is not true!

We can live empowered by the strength we have been given by God!

God knows our weaknesses, but has exactly what we need to live empowered through His Spirit!My husband is not the enemy.

His actions are not the enemy. But my responses to those actions or statements can definitely be impacted by the devil and his desire to use our weaknesses influence in our lives.This is yet another reason why it’s so important to be in God’s word, building a relationship with God, fervently seeking God, and practicing Abraham-like faith. When we are immersed in truth and close to the heart of God, we are better able to ward off and acknowledge the advances of the real enemy and his handiwork.

Has a situation with your hubby ever made you start reacting towards him as if he’s the enemy? I’d love to hear about it. Share with me in the comments!